Hesperian Health Guides
Living with someone who has a drinking or drug problem
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Women whose partners use injection drugs are at risk for getting HIV and hepatitis.
- do not blame yourself. It is not always possible to help another person control his or her drug or alcohol use.
- try not to rely on the person’s opinion of you to feel good about yourself.
- try to find a support group for you and your family. Sometimes this is the only way a family can cope with the problem.
How to help someone with a drinking or drug problem:
- Help him admit he has a problem. This may be all that is needed for him to use less or stop, unless he is addicted.
- Talk to him about stopping when he is not drunk or on drugs.
- Try not to blame him.
- Help him to avoid situations where he may feel pressured to drink or take drugs. This means not being with people with the same problem, even if they are friends.
- Help him to find other ways to cope with life’s problems and to have better mental health.
- Help him make a plan for stopping and follow that plan.
I found out I was a people gatherer...What got me to move forward was other people around me. I did not think of myself as a leader, but there I was, getting people together to talk about this.
Bonnie, from the USA, talks of her struggle with her husband’s drinking. She now works with Al-Anon.
Al-Anon is an organization like AA, that provides support and help for family members of alcoholics.
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This page was updated:13 Jun 2019